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🌱 Self Love vs Growth

Milton Holdiem
Milton Holdiem
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Self love versus growth.

On the surface, these ideas seem like they would conflict. Should you accept who you are now? Or should you strive to be a better version of yourself? Is it possible to do both? Let's start by defining self-love.

Self Love

Self love is the art of being kind to yourself. It starts with self-awareness and discovering your story. Then, you accept it without judgement. You can't change how you got here, and that's okay.

Acceptance in a sentence:
"This is me, and that's pretty cool."

Self love is also about creating yourself. You aren't who you were 6 months ago, and you won't be the same person 6 months from now.

Self love isn't about being complacent. Acceptance doesn't mean lowering your standards just to avoid discomfort. It means accepting who you are, but that doesn't mean you can't want the best for yourself.


Growth means making progress. It's about creating a better version of yourself.

  1. Self-love invites growth.
  2. Growth leads to self-love.
  3. Then repeat.

It's AND, not VS

Self love & growth don't contradict. Instead, self-love leads to growth.

When you accept who you are and realize that you deserve better, you give yourself permission to grow.

When you work hard to improve, do things you're proud of, and expand on who you are, you give yourself even more of a reason to love yourself.

Instead of fighting between the two, maybe it's all connected. 🌱

Self-love leads to growth. Growth leads to self-love.

Hope you enjoyed this weekly #54!

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I'm a fitness coach, but always learning. Cold brew drinker. Curator of corny dad jokes. Constantly looking towards the brighter side of things. ☀️


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